Dear Scabby:

Would it be possible to get your "take" on dating someone with a personality disorder and the destructive repetitive nature of it and why it is so hard to get out of it ....I have been struggling with someone for almost a year. I blame myself mostly for trying to stick it out and hope for change which never comes..
Sincerely,
SadGirl
Asked by Anonymous

Dear Sad Girl

Attraction is a very strange energy form. And it’s also the most powerful and significant energy in the universe. It is rarely as random as it seems.

Sometimes we seem to be mysteriously attracted to the “wrong” people for no apparent good reason. While such relationships can be super uncomfortable and inconvenient to our short-term peace of mind and happiness, when ya look at it from another perspective, the most trying situations often come into our lives for a very good reason: to teach us things about ourselves which we need to learn for our own mental, emotional and spiritual development.

At the risk of engaging in shameless self-promotion here, I strongly suggest you get a copy of my latest novel, NARCISA and read it, since it deals essentially with the deep psychic roots of people’s seemingly “fatal attractions” to troubled relationships and troubled people.

While the basic “moral of the story” offers no quick, easy solution to such complex issues, it does attempt to unflinchingly explore the subject from a wider perspective, hopefully shedding some new light on such questions as yours and maybe opening some new doors of perception for the reader’s edification. It’s also presented in a entertaining and action-packed guided tour of hell.

As a wise man once said, “hell is other people.”

Another old saying tells us, “ya can’t live with ‘em, but ya can’t live without ‘em.”

My take on it is, “as long as you’re going to hell, ya may as well give the devil a run for his money and try to figure out why you’re there in the first place.”

Good luck!